How To Stop Nagging 

 March 7, 2013

Do your kids or your partner accuse you of nagging? Do you think it’s the only way to get them to do anything?nagging

If you’re tired of repeating the same requests without getting the results you want, it’s time to try some of these alternatives to nagging…

Cut them some slack

Focus on the positive. Keep your eye on the big picture. When you think about how your family, friends and colleagues enrich your life, it’s easier to cut them some slack on the less pleasant details of your interactions.

Be more flexible

Let your kids know that you appreciate their willingness to help out even if their methods are different from your own. If they make their own bed praise them rather than redoing it because they haven’t done it properly. See it as a learning experience for them.  If you come along and redo it then they will stop trying to help.

Teach them to understand the consequences of their actions

Maybe your kids surprise you with a school project due the next morning on the evening when you usually go grocery shopping. Eating tuna fish sandwiches for a week may help them understand the importance of giving you adequate notice.

Get help from others

Consider paying someone to help with things that cause ongoing conflicts. A weekly housecleaning service may be worth the investment. Find another parent at your kid’s school who wants to take turns driving them to football practice.


Look  at everything you are juggling

Stress and irritability is often a sign that you’re trying to do too much. Take a piece of paper and make a list of all of the different balls you are juggling. Rate them all on a scale of 1 to 10 of importance. Which balls could you put to one side for now?


Make better use of technology

Brief text messages and automated calendar reminders deliver the same information with less risk of putting people on the defensive. Remind your partner that you have a school meeting tonight without saying a word.

Take time out

Deal with sensitive subjects when you’re feeling calm and collected. Sometimes the best thing you can do is take a walk until you settle down.

Address the root issue

Probe more deeply to see if nagging is a symptom of deeper issues in your relationships. Marital counseling or parenting classes may help you get to the bottom of what’s going on.

Ask for what you want directly.

Work up the courage to state what you need clearly and tactfully. One skillful message beats years of beating around the bush.

Listen well

Practice attentive listening. Concentrate on what the other person is saying and confirm that you understand. It’s easier to cooperate with each other when we feel validated and cared for.
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Julia Harris

About the author

Julia Harris is The Upgrade Coach. She works with smart women who understand that the only thing holding them back from fulfilling their potential is the unhelpful thinking patterns keeping them trapped and the habits that they keep falling back into.

If you want to upgrade your life or business you start by upgrading your thoughts.

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